"My hubby sleeps with me everyday by force by fire, twice rape, one slap, no affection" See WHAT NIGERIAN WOMEN GO THROUGH IN THE NAME OF MARRIAGE.

 

 Some women can really stomach so much in the name of answering "MRS"... this article you are about to read, would shock you and leave you in tears if you are an emotional person. We edited nothing, just posted it the way it came from Due Process Advocate, a platform that continues to fight for human right in Nigeria. Read below.



WHAT NIGERIAN WOMEN GO THROUGH IN THE NAME OF MARRIAGE.

This is another story that will shock you. This one is long, but every bit of it is gripping. The man would want to have sex when she is sick. She tries to beg him that she is sick. But he would say: "Bring your ass here". He will proceed to rape her. No torch. No kiss. Just bang, bang, bang, on a sick and pained body of the "wife". With her own hands, she wrote:

"My hubby sleeps with me everyday by force by fire, twice rape, one slap, no affection wakes me up, I want to do something brings ur ass, and he do and stand up, no kiss, no touch thou he make moves to touch but I don't accept he fucks me like a dog, I feel sad everyday."

Again, read this story and learn from it. Share your thoughts and opinions. But don't judge. We don't like judges here. Only God will judge the intentions of human beings:
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Sunday
10/23, 9:43pm

WIFE:

Good evening sir, I'm sorry I'm just sending the message now, I got married 6years ago to a man,his parent are very rich and well known,infact very popular. .1st the boy rejected the pregnancy at first. bcos he said his not ready, we didn't court at all so I don't know anything about him but he was a church member and we know his parent, I was really searching for a baby then bcoz of some problems I have with my stomach so the doctor advice me to get pregnant as soon as possible. And that was that. In fact my dad was so sad to see that I was impregnated by him. So his not happy on that day, so I have to beg him with the help of my pastor to consider my health n what d doctor said. So he finally accepted, no marriage nothing was paid on me. Dis guy gave alot of problems, I became a slave in his house, I worked to take care of my self n and after given birth to my daughter I took all the responsibility clothing her, feeding her etc. But he later helped n took care of the baby after a long suffering. In BTW of the pregnancy he use to take belylin with codeine so he misbehave, he will beat me drag me in on d floor in pregnancy, he will drinks n vomit everywhere, I lol be d one to pack it etc this continue like that, so at a point I couldn't stomach it, I have to start reporting him to his family's they talk to him n all but he only change for a period of time. So for years. Slap,abusive words,physical and emotional tortured, that my parent don't like me, I forced myself on him, that he just want to sleep with me and leave me that it was only a lie when he took me to his mother to introduce me to her, he said his dad use to abuse him everyday just bcoz of me, it was a long thing, so I keep enduring that he will change for good and which I was able to change him, he stop drinking d codeine, he stop going out with friends late at night,and so many other things, so he begin to take responsibilities in the house etc.
10/23, 9:54pm

WIFE:

So mistakingly I became pregnant again, it was a battle on its own his father said what rubbish is all this, that his it bcoz he has money his mother said why can't I tell my mother to abort it for me when I mistakenly got pregnant again, so this time it was his parent and his siblings I faced hell. I can't work freely, sad all thru, in that pregnancy at a point his parent called my parent to come that they want to have a family discussion with them, so my parent went getting to the meeting his parent talked to my parent that they are said to see me pregnant again that they believe we cannot take care of one how come I went for the second one, that my husband his not doing well in his business and me too I went to unilag, just bsc holder, so my parent said they are sorry that in fact there plan for me is to go back to university for my masters but they are shocked to see me pregnant, but they promised that after given birth I will return back to school.
10/23, 9:59pm

WIFE

In fact they talked and talked and talked ,Infact my hubby said he don't know how I became pregnant that I took a drug so how come in was pregnant, so he denied the pregnancy the only thing I could say on that day is when I put to bed we will go for DNA and that was it, in fact when I put to bed I started taking care of this boy alone food, clothing etc no money, OK starve just to see my boy Kk, dis guy detest my boy so much that as a baby if he cries my husband will hit him, I can't explain much bcoz of time but it was hellllllllll.
10/23, 10:01pm

WIFE:

I kip pushing my head that one day I will runaway and never to come back bcoz little did I know that his parent don't like me until one of his sister confirmed it to me that there parent are like that, that all there boys4 is only one that has a wife at home the rest has gone.
10/23, 10:09pm

WIFE:

In all dis fight everyday ,no rest of mind, no happiness, friends today enemy tomorrow,i paid my son school fees up till when he start nusery class, so I beg n plead before he know helped me to pay, so if he pays school fees,i pay for school bus n things in d school, thou he don't joke with her girl.
10/23, 10:12pm

WIFE:

So to cut my story short last year around Aug I started having a serious issue with my chest so at a point I went for X-ray and one other one I can't remember the name, the result wasn't really good etc chest issue all the time he is going to my heart already n I need to be careful, did and dat
10/23, 10:12pm

WIFE:

No rest of mind at all.
10/23, 10:20pm

WIFE:

So around Nov, I took alone for my Dec market, during that time my hubby became heal, thou he fall sick all the time, bcos he has diabetes I ll be going up n down for him anytime this sickness started ,but he doesn't appreciate it,is as if have not done anything n is over 2/3years that we have been on diabetes my parent goes up n down for herbal for him. So last year Dec he became sick, but what was wrong to him happens to my children n I took care of them and it left, so samething happened to him on d mouth n my parent helped out to take care of him as dey did to my children, so for me I don't count it to be something big, so I go to shop in d morning
10/23, 10:22pm

WIFE:

But what he wanted is for me to lock my shop n start staying with him in d house, but I was like for now he should understand I can't lock my shop I'm selling very well n I don't have a sale girl, n I hardly sell the way people are turning up with dis I will be able to pay for my loan.
10/23, 10:25pm

WIFE:

He was angry but I don't care one day I came back from shop I didn't see him at home I became so worried so I called him so he said I should not call him that his with his parent that they has come to carry him, ahh I was like this 40yrs old boy has started again, anylittle thing he will just go to his parent house to start telling them. So later he came home and I said sorry to him
10/23, 10:27pm
Emeka Ugwuonye
I'm reading
10/23, 10:28pm

WIFE:

What type of foolish wife did I marry my dad has told me before, that he prays that we should depart so that we can both be free from each other did and that started threading of beating me if I say a word.
So anytime he brings up his threatening I use to runaway from him coz he will definitely beat me if I dare talk.
So the following day I picked up my cloth to go to shop again, 300k loan is not small money so I went to him what will you eat he said I should go that his mum will take care.
So I called the mother to beg him for me, so that I can't cook for him bcoz he called his mother that his hungry that I left him without food instead of him to call me to come home,he called his mother n sister
10/23, 10:34pm

WIFE:

So it was his Sis that now called me to lock my shop n go home to cook n stay with him n never to open my shop again until get better, that she knows what's saying if I want my marriage to work before his parent spoil and that was the day I told u that I locked my shop n I ran home,but getting to d house I met his absent
10/23, 10:35pm

WIFE:

So the following day I started begging him to eat something,he said no he ll sort himself, n me I left him to d shop
So that December was tough for me quarrels from his parent
So Dec I make my New Year resolution for God let me
January came 1st of January my hubby brought a fight of Dec and I told him dis has passed
10/23, 10:42pm

WIFE:

So her Sis came for a visit n he said Jan so so thing, I said ahh me aunty I wont be around, I'm going for ticketing training, I don't intend to work at d airport but I studied European languages(russian) and I'm not getting a job let me do the ticketing to back my CV maybe I'll get a job to do
10/23, 10:43pm

WIFE:

Her Sis said rubbish, that I want to go into prostitution, is not meant for a married woman, dis n dat.
10/23, 10:45pm

WIFE:

So I was thinking what I lol tell my dad again, that he all not feel bad so I called my dad that I don't want to go again, he said never I must go that he don't like d way I'm leaving my life and that's not his plans for me that even if he has to send his lands just for me to be somebody in life he ll do it.
10/23, 10:48pm

WIFE:

So I went to my sister in-laws to tell her that I have to go, we started dragging the issue so Jan 15 I went with full force, I miss that program but I did another one n I got my certificate and that's cargo and logistic, they became angry with himself and his sister
So my dad summoned or him, but what will he say to me he said why did your dad called me, I'm sure his rubbished he wants to tell him.
I was angry but I kept it to myself.
I told her Sis that come Feb I'm going for the main ticketing she said she lol never agreed to that.
So I became sick early February and my hubby said his still sick if diabetes, in BTW this, his father called me that how's my hubby doing, I said, his I'll now but feeling lazy.
I don't know this word pained his dad that I said his feeling lazy,they capitalized on that, that I'm not a good wife now, but all along I was a slave in there house, I go to his parent every week.
If I don't go in one week I will go d following week at least 2/3in a week.
So that night I was sick shivering with serious headache, in d middle of the night I just saw my hubby by d bed, I want to have sex, I said to him: don't start I'm sick I can't, pains allover
He said no he needs to have sex by force by fire that he needs me to ease his stress.
So now let me list some things
1)My hubby sleeps with me everyday by force by fire, twice rape, one slap, no affection wakes me up, I want to do something brings ur ass, and he do and stand up, no kiss, no touch thou he make moves to touch but I don't accept he fucks me like a dog, I feel sad everyday.
10/23, 11:07pm

WIFE:

2)his parent gave him millions of money for biz but at the end no achievement.
He will start the biz but for him to stay in his off his problems, very lazy to a fault, he will stay at home play games on his phone eat anything he want sleeps and leave plate for days our house his a duplex no maid I cleaned from 7pm till 12am.
He ll not go his ofc till d biz is run down.
10/23, 11:12pm

WIFE:

So I became so sick and I called my mum to send driver to come as pick me d following morning but before I fall sick he told me that his parent said what I'm I doing in his house that means there house if I cannot come and beg them, I said beg them for what what did I do Kk my dear if I need to beg them follow me to the house to beg them.
10/23, 11:16pm

WIFE:

3)one of her sister that stood by me all the time said I need to quickly do a marriage with him so that I can be recognized in there family I wasn't happy, bcoz I'm not sure of my happiness, so around 2014 we went to the register me, his sister, my aunty and my brother alone, bcoz my parent refuse to go they said 4days plan of wedding without there awareness is it down that way.
10/23, 11:16pm

WIFE:

When I became sick I was admitted to d hospital my dad and his friends were with me but my hubby never showed up Until 7 o'clock
That he now called that were am I, I said he should not bother to come.
That since morning but plz kindly bring my kids stuff for school tomorrow and bring them for me.
And the following morning he brought them.
And since that Feb have not step my foot to lagos
And when he called me to beg me for all his deeds I told him sorry have left him for good.
He beg but I can't go back that's what I told him
His siblings called me from Feb till March but I don't go.
10/23, 11:24pm
Emeka Ugwuonye
Madam, I so sorry for the pain and suffering you went through
10/23, 11:25pm

WIFE:

Bcoz that Feb I went for my ticketing which they said I should not go for and now I'm in lag with my kids doing great with my job and biz
But since December his parent has not called me or even go to my parent house to ask of me.
Even none of his family came looking for me
10/23, 11:32pm
Emeka Ugwuonye
Be careful okay.
10/23, 11:32pm

WIFE:
Kk
10/23, 11:33pm
Emeka Ugwuonye
If there is anyway we can help you, let us know.
10/23, 11:33pm
WIFE:
Alright sir.
10/23, 11:34pm
Emeka Ugwuonye
Can I publish your story without disclosing your name?
10/23, 11:34pm

WIFE:
Yes sir with my name sir.
But his sisters might be on this forum
And you know we have not divorce yet
And we have not settled ourselves yet
So now I need ur advice on what to do
Bcoz he keeps telling me that he will come back for one of the children in fact I told him to come now, he said no he will not that when his ready he will come.
That he has 2boys already and he needs just my girl
I can't leave my children for those people.
10/23, 11:38pm
Emeka Ugwuonye
Don't worry about that. We will protect your children, if need be. And they will stay with you. Don't worry about that.
10/23, 11:39pm

WIFE:
Thank you sir. God bless you.
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NOTE: When a woman has gone through such pain, it is natural that DPA will protect her against any effort to penalize her for her decision to be free. I have been accused of supporting women. But how else could we not support a lady like this?

Source: Due Process Advocate