So Why Do Good Women Fall For Bad Men?

 

We have a heard the phrase "women love bad guys", but we don't know why!. A lot of people have adduced some reasons they believe beautiful, intelligent and well brought up ladies often profer gangsters for relationships.  Some say it because humans are  often attracted to people who are just the opposite of what we are because we think by associating with them, we add to what they have. But is it true?

It is further explained introverts are often attracted to extroverts for the same reasons good women fall for bad men.

In a list compiled by a relationship expert, some of the best reasons why good women fall for bad men include: 

Painful early memories. 

Women who grew up in dysfunctional families and were abused or unloved especially by their fathers grow up with emotional pain. They are unconsciously attracted to the sort of men their mothers had and fall into a cycle of dating bad men who would create similar painful past in their attempt to heal their past.

For such women the greater the pains in their relationship, the more their early memories are activated and the stronger they hold on to the relationship.

If you try to get them out of the relationship they ignore you because what normally feels bad feels good to them.

They ignore all good men because they think these men are boring and unattractive. They feel bored and unsatisfied with good men because good men do not create the environment that heals their past. 

Low self-esteem. 

Some women do not know what to look for in a relationship. They pick bad men and think all men are bad and that there are no good men left.

She puts all the problems in her relationship on herself and thinks it is because she is not doing enough. She is prepared to sacrifice everything to keep her relationship

Women with low self-esteem have love addiction. They are obsessed with love and think a relationship is the focus of life.

They have no reason to leave bad men because they think their relationship defines them and without it they are nobody. They are unwilling to give up bad men for good men. 

Challenge. 

Women want confident, charismatic, confident and brave men (and also men who take risks) to protect them.

Bad men are not afraid to get into trouble and are seen as attractive because they have seemingly powerful aura. By associating herself with a bad man, some women feel powerful – by association.

Bad men keep things interesting. You never get bored with a bad guy who has a sense of humour. He seeks attention and makes you feel desired, loved and s3-xy. He is also unpredictable because you never know what he is going to do next.

Women love surprises! Sadly some think if a bad man makes you feel good, you should stay with him and try to change him. They try unsuccessfully to change the wrong man into the right man. 

Seek help

If you are aware you are predisposed to going out with bad men, appreciate you have a big problem and seek help. Fact is you can never change another person. A man with bad traits will always be a bad man. He will always be selfish and put his interests ahead of you.

No matter how good you are you can never get a good relationship with a bad man. You must therefore, never keep your life on hold for a bad man in an attempt to change him.

If you are in a bad relationship you know it. Be bold and leave. Look for one who shares your dreams. A bad man can never be a good lover. 

Agree, or you have better reasons? Lets share.